Dating Daisy - A Book Review
by Lois Kathryn Herr - Author of Dear Woman of My Dreams
Is a diary fact or fiction? Do we read it as a record of what happened or as a story?
Both, as in the case of Daisy Mae’s book and mine. We want to know what happens and we want to be told a story. There’s something special about reading another person’s diary! What captured me was the pace that a diary brings – one day after another. You get into the pattern of wanting to find out what messages Daisy got the next day when she logged on to internet dating sites.
It seems so real that you are compelled to keep reading. I was convinced Daisy actually wrote each day as it happened, but maybe that wasn’t the case. Maybe she wrote it as a novel. Does it matter? I believed her.
What was the story?
Daisy led me through the trials and tribulations of internet dating. The intrigue of the story is that you are with her as she browses, messages, and eventually meets some of the men on the sites. Her descriptions of them are hilarious, touching, and insightful, but at the same time she is learning about and assessing them, she is learning about herself.
So the story is a journey of self discovery, and we can all relate to that.
Are diaries good book sources?
Some of our diaries are random glimpses into our lives with no continuity other than the weather. Daisy’s diary revolves around her progress through the world of internet dating, and that’s what gives the story structure.
Our lives and our diaries present lots of ideas for writing projects - the test is in translating those diaries into books that people will read and enjoy.
Why do we write diaries?
Some just document their lives; others write to understand themselves. Translating a diary into a book, or writing a book in the form of a diary isn’t as easy as it sounds. The boundaries of fact and fiction become fuzzy – some call this type of writing “creative nonfiction.”
I published my mother’s 1923 diary as a first step in writing about the dozens of diaries and thousands of letters I’ve inherited. I have what is really a family archive. I saw in her diary a way to introduce characters and to do so using a train trip as the framework on which to hang my story. Whether I’ll follow that with other diary stories or not is an open question.
We learn as we write, and as I wrote about the women in my family I found another theme to write about in the future – four generations of women who lived lives of quiet audacity.
But back to Dating Daisy…I’d like to read more from Daisy Mae. The diary format allows her to present a story and comment on it as she goes. I found that good reading.
Do I recommend this book?
Absolutely, and for any one of several reasons:
If you are looking for a fun light read, with entertaining sexual stories
If you want a good education on internet dating
If you like reading about people on the path of self-discovery.
Daisy is very real in this book, and she delightfully describes everyone else she meets. Because of my busy life, I read it like it was being written as I read – in other words, every day or so I’d look for what had happened to her since the last posting. It took me an enjoyable 7 days not 7 weeks, but I thoroughly enjoyed the journey.
At its best, a diary is a journey.
Get in touch
Lois Kathryn Herr’s website - https://www.loisherr.com/
email address - firstname.lastname@example.org
Available at Amazon USA